How are you doing after completing phase 1? Hopefully, you are exploring and getting to know yourself through some awesome self awareness! 😉
So, if you are ready, let’s make our way through page 2 of the My Life Journey Worksheet.
The first question on this page is designed to help you identify any issues that could use some attention. Describe what types of things get you in trouble or cause you to become upset (angry, sad, etc.). Take in your answer, circle what you find desirable in life, and underline anything you find undesirable and would like to change.
Lack of time management – have a hard time fitting it all in, especially with commitments
Low self esteem – lack of confidence effects behaviors/thoughts
Bad temperament – quick to react, quick to judge
Conflicting priorities – priorities get in the way of another
Lack of self awareness – not conscience of your behavior/thoughts and its effects
Lack of discipline – have a hard time doing what is right or following through on commitments
Emotional – emotions influence your behavior/thoughts
Sensitivity – too much of it or lack it effects behavior/thoughts
Expectations – too little of yourself or too much of others
Generosity – giving and doing for others conflicts with taking care of yourself or meeting commitments
Addictions – giving in or spending too much time to an activity that has unhealthy or negative consequences
Environment – putting yourself in a place or around people that is unhealthy or feeds negative behavior
Our second question is all about the gifts you have to offer. Describe what things you can do that you feel great about, makes others feel great, or is often rewarded. For instance, do you have the gift of creating great works of art, bringing people together, providing comfort/compassion, writing, willpower, mathematical aptitude, stewardship, and so on. Again, circle desirables and underline undesirable.
Question three is brainstorming all the roles you play in life. Almost every role has some sort of responsibility attached to it. Of course that doesn’t necessarily mean that you want ownership of those responsibilities, but I think you’ll find that someone expects you to do so.
Here are some of mine . . .
- Daughter – Just like you, I was brought into this world by two people. I choose to nurture that relationship; therefore, I try to be a good daughter by loving and supporting my parents.
- Wife – I willing married the love of my life and work to be the best partner I can be in the life we share.
- Business Owner – I strive to make sure that every life touched by the work we do is changed for the better.
- Pilot Club Member – As a member of this organization, I want to help make a difference and serve my fellow members. I do so by attending meetings as often as possible and volunteering my time to help with projects.
- Innovator – I love to problem solve and develop solutions that make a positive change. I owe it to myself to follow my passion.
Other roles I have – Sister, mother (I could go on and on with this one), aunt, blogger, scrapbooker, flower gardener, housekeeper, bookkeeper, pet owner, friend, volunteer, sorority sister, community member, booster club member, and Chief Financial Officer of Cunningham household.
My list was even longer before, but through this process, I decided that I could not fill all the roles I had listed and as a result I wasn’t giving 100% to each of them. By circling the ones that I desired most to have in my life, I was able to make a deliberate decision to give up those that didn’t mean as much. This way I could stop setting myself up (and others) for disappointment. Now, I have time to give more of myself to the things I truly love. I suggest you do the same. 🙂
The last question is about a concept I call relational accounts. Michael Hyatt explains the concept very well in his eBook Creating Your Personal Life Plan, but he calls them life accounts. Our applications between the two are different. Feel free to read his eBook to compare. Use whichever method you prefer. 🙂
There is a saying about relationships, that you should put more into them than you take out from them. Relationship is defined in the dictionary as connection, association, or involvement. Obviously you have relationships with the people in your life. But you also have relationships with activities in your life. Let’s take your finances for example. How involved are you in managing your finances? Do manage it well by keeping within your budget, investing routinely, being careful not to over extend yourself? Do you have a love/hate relationship with money? These are all things to be aware of and manage with intention.
The idea behind having relational accounts is to help you track and manage your relationship. Mostly through goal setting, but you may choose to monitor them through deposits and withdrawals too. We’ll cover this concept more in Component No. 14, but you can probably guess that a deposit is made when you give to that relationship and a withdrawal is made when you take away from the relationship.
By looking at my roles, I discovered that I could categorize them into groups that represented areas of my life that are of importance to me. These groups became my list of relational accounts. They are Self, Shawn (my husband), Children (my kiddos), Family (extended family), Friends, Career, Finances, and Service. So, my groupings look like this . . .
Category – Roles
Self – Scrapbooker, flower gardener, housekeeper, pet owner, sorority sister, innovator
Shawn – Wife
Children – Mother
Family – Daughter, sister, aunt, granddaughter, niece, cousin,
Friends – Friend
Career – Business owner, blogger, bookkeeper
Finances – CFO of Cunningham household
Services – Volunteer, pilot member, community member, booster club member
Wow! That covers page 2. Each page you finish, you make a huge deposit into your “Self” account. Keep plugging away. It will be worth all your time and energy!
Question – What gift are you most proud of?
*** This post is just one in a series of many covering the aspects of the My Life Journey Program. To learn more about the program, click here. ***
“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” – Oliver Wendell Holmes