Blame No More – There is a Better and Productive Solution

So many people today are experiencing heartache from the event that occurred last Friday at the Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, Connecticut.   Understandably, several are not only sad, but angry that such a thing could happen.  So, not only are we dealing with the loss of incredible educators and the innocence of young ones, we are also on a mission to keep it from happening again.

Gun control and mental health concerns are at the forefront.  Both need work.  The removal of God in schools has been another source of contention.  While others may feel it is the presence of hate that grows sourly amongst us.  All of these may carry truth and it is our responsibility to make improvements.  Yet, how effective will it be and how do we do it without imposing on the freedom of others who wish no harm?  It is easy to argue and place blame on these issues, but it is not our only option.

There is one thing we can all do to make a positive difference in this world.  Love one another.  I don’t mean the love you have for your partner (eros) or even the love you have for your family (agape).  I am taking about the love that shows you care (philia).

We are all connected.  Whether or not we are the larger than life celebrity, clerical assistant, school teacher, or the guy who is always covered in grime performing manual labor that has to be done by someone . . . we all are fragile . . . mortal . . . humans that bleed just the same.

You don’t have to be religious to understand or believe.  We just need to respect each other, love one another, and have heart.  It’s true that before you can love others, you have to love yourself first.  For those who do love themselves, just think of the difference that could be made by spreading love to others.

Kindness, even from a stranger, may inspire a person into loving themselves.  And once they have done that, they begin to show love to others as well.  The love spreads and hopefully, the lives of those lost (who could potentially do harm to others), finds their way simply by a small act of kindness.  A kindness that was not owed to them, but unexpected and given out of love and compassion.  You never know when your action may be the tipping point that helps someone.  Unfortunately, the opposite may hold true too, therefore, we need to be mindful.

Let’s all live with intention and be a positive difference.  Make eye contact, smile, and say hello to the people you encounter on the sidewalk, in the store, and on the train.  Extend yourself and the world will be brighter.

With love,


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“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” – Oliver Wendell Holmes

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