What Does Winning Look Like?

What does it mean to win?  This was a question I wanted to answer for my daughter’s soccer coach a few years ago.  I even went so far as to draft my answer in an email.  An email I never sent.


He was all about winning.  So much so, that he played the best and most experienced players the majority of the time, leaving the less experienced and timid players on the bench for nearly the entire season.  This happened tournament after tournament.  It was very sad.  The girls who were great players, did not perform their best, because they were worn out.  And those that could use improvement, never had the chance to, as that’s pretty hard to develop sitting on a bench.  Needless to say, they didn’t win many games and never won a tournament title.

I choose not to share my thoughts with him.  Instead, I tucked my note in a folder to share with my girls as they get older, as it applies not only in sports, but in our everyday life.  It’s about time I share it with them and I hope you find value in it too.

What is WINNING?

  • It is maximizing potential, not just your own, but those around you.  Support and encouragement go a long way.  Together everyone achieves more.
  • It is the amount of growth achieved.  Just a little growth can make you a winner.  But be sure that as you learn from your mistakes, you do not dwell on the them.  Making adjustments and moving on is the essence of growth.
  • Lessons learned!  The most important lessons that we all need to continue to learn are. . .
  1. How to work as a team (working to share responsibility, develop cohesiveness, and ability to collaborate).
  2. How to communicate effectively (meaning that information is shared constructively so that everyone has the information they need to succeed).
  3. And how to nurture and respect those around us.  Ask yourself, “How have I helped each and every team member win?” and “Has my performance left a positive impact on everyone involved?”

Applying this notion can take form in many ways in our every day life.  Whether it be at home, school, work, a community event, or in public setting, we all have the power to make a winning difference when we are . . .

  • Coaching
  • Working in a team
  • Parenting
  • Mentoring
  • Teaching
  • Supervising
  • Leading
  • Serving

Don’t just be in it to win it . . . embrace the influence you have and help others be winners!  After all . . . being on the top all by yourself doesn’t make for a big win.

QuestionWhat opportunity do you see in helping others win?  Please share your thoughts in the comments below.

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“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” – Oliver Wendell Holmes

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